i shouldn’t write-off your insecurities. they are natural and human and they’re not rational because they don’t have to be. i have plenty of insecurities, and “gay culture” is literally based on them. all of culture is, that’s how people sell us things. i get it, i do.
but it’s not fair for you to project your insecurities onto me. i have my own, and yeah, there are common gay dating insecurities that i don’t have to worry about because i am white, and because i’m tall, and because i’m currently in my early twenties and because i am extremely fucking cool and awesome, and yes, sure, fine, because i can grow facial hair.
doesn’t mean there aren’t a half dozen things about me i am concerned about. doesn’t mean there aren’t things i’d like to change. i almost typed “fix,” but that’s a poor word choice. i’m not going to talk about specifics because it’s our job in life to forget about our insecurities and live like we don’t have them. insecurity is like a precious treasure, and i really believe that.
you know what though? when it comes to dating, it doesn’t matter what you don’t feel confident in about yourself. you are not the one kissing you. you are not the one fucking you. someone else is going to find you, and find the things they are attracted to, and they are going to find them in you. so you might never be six feet tall, but someone is going to be so happy that you fit perfectly in their arms, and you’ll be happy to be there.